The terrifying truth about certainty

….Is that nothing in life is certain. The only certainties in life are death and taxes. Sad but true. How often do you find that you need to be certain that something will work out before committing to it? I do it all the time, in fact, we all do.

You meet a guy or girl with great potential but you hold back until you are 100% sure that you can trust them enough to let your guard down. Or you come up with an idea for an innovative project and get excited about it, but you don’t commit to it fully because you need to be certain that it will be a success before pouring your savings into it. Maybe there’s a course you’ve been thinking of registering for, but you’re hesitant because you need some guarantee that it is worth dedicating three years of your life to.

If you’re not careful, you can wait a lifetime.

The reality though is that you can never be 100% sure that a love interest won’t hurt or disappoint you. That doesn’t mean you can’t be cautious. But if you’re getting to know someone, you must allow them to get to know you and you them. Otherwise, why bother? And the brilliance of that idea that you have can only be realised if you give it all you’ve got. A half-assed effort will give you half baked results.

What lies behind much of our indecisiveness and need for certainty is fear. Fear that you’ll make the wrong choice and get your heart broken — yet again. Fear that your great idea might not work out and you will look like a failure to people around you. Fear that you’re running out of time to do all the things you want to do, so you over think it and analyse every possible scenario until you are actually out of time.

This is a lesson I’m learning the hard way. There are no certainties in life. You have to take chances and have faith that things will work out. And if they don’t, come what may you’ll be okay.

This is what this journey called life is all about — taking chances. I’d rather live life scared and unsure sometimes than sit on the sidelines waiting until I’m completely certain. Because if you’re not careful, you can wait an entire lifetime.

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