I recently reconnected with an old friend whom I have known for the past 23 years. I’m usually quite hesitant to reunite with old friends because I’ve come to accept that some people are only in your life for a season and its best to leave it at that. She was the first person I ever really called a friend. We drifted in and out of each other’s adult lives over the years, not because we grew apart but because life just took over and ‘busyness’ made us lazy to maintain contact. So at the end of 2016, we made a choice to meet up and stay in touch. When we sat down for dinner that day, I remembered why we were once so inseparable.
It’s so amazing to sit down and talk to someone you’ve grown up with. We’re still very much the same little girls. We’ve just grown into even better big girls. We still share similar values, a sense of humour and are like-minded in so many ways. I learned so much about her that I’d never known before, all that’s happened over the years and dreams and plans for the future. We reminisced about our primary school days, remembered some of the people we had gone to school with and how everyone had taken such different paths.
…I remembered why we were once so inseparable
More than anything it was a real conversation with a good friend and it felt good. Not forced or awkward. She understood and accepted the person I am today without trying too hard. I left there knowing that in her I had a lifetime friend. We won’t talk on the phone or text regularly. We probably won’t even see that much of each other but reaching out from time to time requires little effort.
I’m learning to really appreciate people who make an effort to be in my life. We’re all so busy, consumed by our concerns and to-do lists that it’s easy to lose touch with people we value. I’m not saying look up all the people you once were friends with, just be the first to touch base with the ones you loved and lost along the way. For all you know they might be missing you too. And trust me you won’t regret it.
BY: NELISIWE TSHABALALA
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