Vulnerability is a word that leaves me cold. There have been times when I felt like I’d rather take a hike, literally, than allow myself to be fully vulnerable with people. The thought of being emotionally naked with anyone is terrifying, but if you want to have relationships that have some depth you have to learn to be real with people, to open your heart. Easier said than done right? Totally.
Vulnerability seems to come easier to some people more than others. I’ve seen it in the ‘I wear my heart on my sleeve’ types and I’ve always secretly wondered what it’s like to be a ‘what you see is what you get’ kind of person. That’s not me. I’m more reserved, guarded and private than most women I know. But I’m learning that vulnerability is a crucial part of life. It’s a risk worth taking in order to fully experience the joys of life. Otherwise, you’re always sitting on the sidelines fearing what could go wrong.
No one explores this better than American researcher and vulnerability expert Brené Brown. Her TED talks on the topic have been the most viewed and once you watch them you will understand why. I have lost count of how many times I have watched her talks and each time she truly blows my mind and helps me to better understand myself. She is also the author of several books including the best-selling Daring Greatly: How The Courage To Be Vulnerable Transforms The Way We Live, Love and Parent.
If you do nothing else this year, make time to read one of her books or better yet, bookmark and watch her TED talks.
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